Mediation FAQ: What is the Role of the Mediator?

What is the Role of the Mediator?

As a mediator, I believe my first role is to understand the dispute between the parties.  The parties to the suit have the most information about the issues that they currently face.  To help them reach a resolution, I need to understand the genesis of the dispute through its current status.  Therefore, before the parties and their counsel meet with me, I ask each of them to provide me with a “mediation brief,” which is essentially a summary of your dispute.  Your brief should not be a trial advocacy brief, or contain bundles of pleadings and deposition transcripts unless those are absolutely necessary to educate me.  You should simply provide me general information regarding the types of claims filed, as well as the strengths and weaknesses of the evidence regarding those claims.  Briefs should be civil and professional in tone, without personal attacks. The goal your brief should be to inform me, not to inflame your opponent.

A good brief will contain:

  • A factual summary, including any factual disputes;
  • A short statement outlining the type of work/business of every party, if relevant;
  • A chronology of events, if relevant;
  • A glossary of technical terms, if relevant;
  • A list of the important parties and their relation to the dispute;
  • An outline of the legal issues;
  • A history of the settlement negotiations between the parties, if any (consider submitting this information in a separate confidential submission);
  • A candid evaluation of the relative strengths and weaknesses of each party’s case;
  • A procedural history of the litigation, and any upcoming deadlines, including a trial date;
  • A fair settlement proposal to which you would be willing to agree (consider submitting this information in a separate confidential submission);
  • Any non-monetary settlement terms you would like to explore (consider submitting this information in a separate confidential submission); and
  • Any terms or conditions that the party or parties believe should be included in a settlement agreement.

Second, attorneys sometimes want all mediation briefs to be confidential.  There are many times when parties could have saved hours of negotiations during the mediation session had counsel shared their briefs with each other.  If the other side has an over-inflated view of their case, sharing that information early will assist in settling the matter and advance your cause.

While it is not recommended to disclose truly confidential information in your brief, sharing your brief is not an accommodation to other side.  Retired judge and mediator Alexander H. Williams III is fond of pointing out that a shared brief is an enhancement of your presentation as well as your influence on the mediation. And even if the other side decides not to share its brief, and therefore chooses not to strengthen its presentation, that does not mean you should refuse to strengthen yours.

Third, I will not decide who wins your dispute.  I do not “take sides”— I am not a judge, jury, or an advocate.  My job is to help each side come to an agreement.  You are the one who decides if you are willing to accept any offer made by the other party.  I may provide the parties with some food for thought and even play devil’s advocate at times to challenge how each party sees both the dispute as well as the way forward.  At times, I may act as an “agent of reality,” telling each party things that they don’t want to hear.  I do so that the parties can see things that they may not have considered before, but you will be the one who makes the final decision whether you agree to a settlement.  Most parties to mediation at one time or another express unrealistic goals or settlement offers.  Rest assured that I will discuss “reality” with both side of the dispute.

Fourth, I will try to help the parties find common ground.  As I do so, my goal is to guide the process in a fair fashion.  Sometimes that means discussing money being paid from one side to another.  Other times that will entail crafting a business relationship going forward that benefits both parties more than litigation does.

Finally, I will often be asked to “carry water” for a party—that is, a party will ask that I deliver a message to the other party.  These messages could be positive in nature—a willingness to express a sincere apology, or a more negative approach—if you don’t accept our offer, we intend to file a motion for fees, etc.

Jay Young is a Mediator in Las Vegas, Nevada.  He can be reached at or at

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